Friendship is a deep oneness that develops when two people, speaking the truth in love to one another, journey together to the same horizon. | Timothy Keller
Marriage is sacred to Christians. And it’s been under assault for decades.
Created by God as a lifelong bond of commitment, contemporary marriages often seem transient, arrangements-for-convenience for as long as it “feels good” for one or both parties. For many, marriage has become whatever the world defines it to be.
Tim Keller’s The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God examines the decline of sanctity defining so many modern marriages with clarity and depth.
Addressing Christians and Non-Christians alike, Keller lays out a bold vision of what God-filled unions should be, writing that marriage was designed to be a framework “for helping each other to become our future glory-selves, the new creations that God will eventually make us.” Instead of relying on ever-changing opinions of marriage, Keller takes us back to scripture for inspiration and guidance, unlocking God’s timeless insights and providing a real-world application for the challenges marriages face in the 21st Century.
Written in his characteristic style, Keller is both easy to understand yet profoundly deep. Some of his insights seem obvious, while others leap from the page reminding us of the power God’s design has for us even today. A few of our favorites are:
- Actions sometimes overshadow our feelings. Acting out of love inevitably leads to feelings of love.
- All marriages have moments of doubt and challenge. Yet staying in a marriage in the face of hardship or even betrayal, working through difficulties out of love and genuine sanctification of your partner can turn around the most broken relationship. Keller writes that the vast majority of unhappy spouses eventually find happiness if they stay in their marriages and commit themselves to healing.
- There is no “right” person any of us marry for the simple reason that no two individuals are completely compatible. Marriage is hard, it takes love and it takes work.
- While spouses rarely succeed in changing one another, deep, fulfilling marriages always profoundly change spouses.
Regardless of one’s religious beliefs or marital status, “The Meaning of Marriage” is well worth reading. Keller’s description of marriage as a glorious relationship demonstrating the beauty and majesty of God’s love for each of us offers an oasis of hope amidst a world seeking to tear itself apart.
“The Meaning of Marriage” can be found on Amazon!